Why the Promise of Parenting?
You love your children.
Yet you find yourself getting triggered at them.
Irritable, angry, stressed, rushing, withdrawing, feeling anxious, upset, and more.
You don’t like how you feel and you want to feel better.
You want to show up embodying the love for them that you feel on the inside.
The love that you really want them to feel from you!
But sometimes that love gets covered up by the anger, irritation, impatience, annoyance, unhappiness, and stress.
If this is the case…you are in the right place!
What is the Promise of Parenting?
The Promise of Parenting is an acknowledgement that we are made in God's loving image and we have truly loving natures. Yet like all creatures of the Earth, we are gifted with a nervous system that not only allows us to interact with this world, but also ensures life by going into a survival mode when it feels we are threatened. Characteristics of the nervous system in survival mode include anger, frustration, fatigue, disconnection, impatience, annoyance, feeling stressed out overwhelmed, feeling rushed, and other uncomfortable feelings.
Some threats are universal to humans and put the nervous system into survival mode, such as suffocation, heights, being trapped, abandoned, novel situations, predators, and being killed. Yet if these conditions are not present, it is most likely that the nervous system is in a survival mode based on past painful experiences and biological factors.
This survival function is unconscious and automatic and activated by anything that resembles previously painful experiences. In the present, this can translate to us getting triggered at or being emotionally unavailable for our children. Biological imbalances in the body can also contribute to this state and can include temporary illnesses, long-haul syndromes, nutrients imbalances, and more.
“What I do, I do not understand. For I do not do what I want, but I do what I hate.” -Romans 7:15
The Promise of Parenting trusts not only in God's acceptance of our reactive earthly natures, but in His call for us to grow in His loving likeness and realize His promise of the happiness that comes with that. Parenting is a very powerful experience that God uses to fulfill this promise. Parenting reveals clearly to us all the ways in which we struggle to show up in a loving way and do not embody God's loving likeness. Perhaps more than any other relationship, our love for our children will drive us to seek change. Furthermore, our children, whose nervous systems have not yet been fully conditioned to the ways of the world, act as a reflection to us of our truest, most loving selves from which we can learn. As we raise another human, we are also invited to examine those belief systems we embody but that may not follow God's loving ways.
“Amen, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will not enter the kingdom of heaven.” -Matthew 18:3
How does it work?
The journey to growing in the likeness of God is a journey of rediscovering our very nature as His created children. It is also an acknowledgement of our holistic nature; that to transform is best facilitated by working with both those painful past emotional and mental experiences of the nervous system, as well as the biology of the body that is impacting the nervous system and contributing to keeping us stuck in certain negative patterns.
The Promise of Parenting offers individual coaching to facilitate the transformation of negative parenting patterns into positive ones and of growing in embodied love. We are each full of love for our children and coaching simply facilitates the process of making more room for that to be naturally and authentically expressed each day.
What will happen if I do this?
When you are ready to take the courageous step into coaching, you can grow to authentically embody more loving presence, patience, playfulness, and connection with your kids.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. -Jeremiah 29:11
Testimonials
"Working with Eileen was tremendously beneficial and healing for me. Her use of Havening along with IFS was a powerful combination that helped me to go deep into clearing and healing issues I have been struggling with. I can highly recommend working with Eileen, she truly has a gentle and beautiful way of making the whole process feel safe and seamless."
-Denise, CA
"I recommend Eileen as a Havening coach. She was very intuitive and was able to follow my lead and expertly guided me right where I needed to go so that I could land in a safe hopeful place. Eileen is compassionate, gentle, sweet and kind. She creates a safe haven from which to heal. Thank you Eileen."
-Alise, CA
"Before I started working with Eileen, I was struggling with imposter syndrome, and feeling really alone in my struggle. Eileen made me feel accepted exactly where I was at. No matter what I've thrown at her, she has always responded with the same calm, accepting compassion. Her quiet consistency has led me to depths of self-understanding I didn't expect to reach so soon. Working with her has helped me realize that a lot of my shame about being different from other people isn't necessary; that I can see myself from my point of view instead of trying to look at myself the way a totally different person would see me. As I've gotten to know and accept myself more, it's gotten easier for me to be understanding of others and stay calm in the face of conflict. I would recommend Eileen to anyone whose inner struggle is impacting their relationships with others.”
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About Me
Hello! And welcome to the Promise of Parenting. My name is Eileen. When I had my daughter, I felt overwhelmed and unprepared. Yet the most important thing for me was that she feel loved and that we spend lots of fun time together. I became a stay at home mom and made sure we played together everyday and arranged everything in a way that I could accomplish this goal, but despite all my efforts I found myself struggling to show up in the loving way that I wanted. Even though everything was in place, I felt stressed or rushed or disconnected or annoyed. I did not want my daughter to feel this energy from me but I couldn't help it. So I began pursuing change and invested in working with my own coach to overcome some deep-rooted negative beliefs and patterns. I took courses that gave me additional skills to not only help myself but also others. I know firsthand that change is possible. Things do get easier, it is possible to overcome great challenges, and God works to continuously grow us in love each day.
I help moms work through barriers to deeper connection with their children and show up in a way that is more authentically present, patient, and playful.
In him was life, and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. -John 1:4-5
I live in sunny Yuma, Arizona with my husband, daughter, Goldie, and two bunnies. I am military culture informed having served four years on active duty in the Navy.
My coaching credentials include certifications as a Conscious Parenting Coach, Spiritual Life Coach, and IFSCA Stepping Stones Internal Family Systems (IFS)-Informed coach. Additionally, I am certified as a Havening Techniques® Practitioner, holistic nutritionist, Biology of Trauma Professional, and have completed the NeuroMetabolic 16-week roadmap to health program with functional medicine doctor Peter Kan.
1-hr one-on-one transformation sessions are a $100 investment, recommended weekly or as determined by the client.